The following case study shows how taking an adaptable mindset to the changes we face can help us to be more resilient by using the case study of a firefighter named Phillip who ultimately responded resiliently to a significant change in his role. Please note that Phillip is not a real client, and that we have created this case study based upon our experiences of working with a variety of individuals across a number of sectors.
Resilient individuals are able to be flexible and adapt to changing circumstances or life crises. Learning to be more adaptable can help people to respond more effectively to events, using them as opportunities for growth and development rather than seeing them as catastrophies.
Normal, everyday life can be very hectic and you can be forgiven for thinking 'how am I going to fit this in?' Or 'isn't this one more thing I have to add to my to do list'. When we feel overwhelmed this is precisely when we need to be more mindful but it doesn't have to be difficult. In fact it can be very easy when you incorporate it into normal, everyday activities. Here are some examples, but the list is endless and you can find creative ways of your own.
In this article, Sandy Juric, mindfulness and compassion psychotherapist at The Hope Street Cente offers some fun and creative tips that can help you to bring mindfulness into your day.
A common reason for coming to counselling or therapy is feeling angry, fearful, sad or guilty. Maybe this feeling has arisen after a change in our circumstances or has been building up over time until it stops us from being or from doing, or it may have been unexpectedly triggered by an event or a person. Often the problem we come with has its roots deeper in our lives and may not be The Problem but a symptom of something else.
“Loneliness is as much a part of life as night and day and thunder, and it can be lived creatively, as any other experience.”Clark Moustakas
Loneliness can affect anyone at any time. When we think of someone who is lonely, we tend to picture an older man or woman who has lost their partner, alone in a small flat. It is unlikely that we think of a young person at university, or a mother or father with young children.
This is a common misunderstanding. A recent AXA PPP survey found that 18-24 year olds are four times as likely to feel lonely “most of the time” as those aged over 70. In addition, research commissioned by Relate, found that found that one in five married or cohabiting people said they rarely or never felt “loved”.
Did you know that stress can cause backache, fatigue, muscular tension, insomnia, emotional outbursts, difficulties with digestion, racing heart, difficult concentrating, plus many other emotional and physical issues?
How long have you been living with constant stress in your life, wondering when you will do something about it, and more importantly, what you will do when that precious time finally arrives? Resilience Coaches Maurice Tomkinson and Tianne Croshaw have 50 years combined experience in psychotherapy, mind coaching and personal development. They have dedicated much of their careers to developing practical tools to help people on their journeys towards wellness and resilience, and in this 2 hour, free event look to share some of their learning with local people and businesses.
Losing someone or something you care about is painful. Whilst there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain, so that in time you are able to move on. Grief can occur at any time in your life – with or without warning - and one of the myths is that there are standard stages or responses that everyone has following a loss (in 1969, it was psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross who introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief”, which include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance). Sometimes though it helps to know that grief is experienced uniquely and cannot always be categorized into so called ‘normal’ stages.
A quick update on Self Injury Helpline and text and email support... for girls and women affected by self injury which we thought might be of interest to your service and clients.
As of 22nd February their text and email service for young women and girls is running Sunday – Friday 7-9pm on 0780 047 2908
Their Women’s Self Injury Helpline runs Tuesday and Wednesday 7-9pm and Thursday 3-5pm and they intend to extend these hours soon.
Both of these services are confidential and run by female volunteers.
They have also set up a monthly ebulletin with information and resources around self injury support – if you would like to receive this ebulletin please let me know or you can subscribe here:
Brightstone's counsellors work with a number of clients who have caring responsibilities for a partner, child, parent, family member or friend. In this article we look at the story of Leanne, who at 42 was unprepared for the responsibility that came with caring for her dying aunt.
Case study: complex emotions when caring for an elderly relative (all names and identifying information has been changed)
Leanne lost both of her parents to suicide before her 28th birthday. Whilst she was devastated at the time and continued to feel deeply sad about her loss, she took a small amount of solace in the fact that she would not have to see her parents deteriorate as they aged.