Do you worry that one day, those around you will realise that you are not capable of doing your job? That you will be ‘found out’? Do you continually worry that you aren't good enough to succeed? That, despite all of your achievements, you're just not capable or clever enough? You're not alone.
Hope Street Centre Director and Psychotherapist Maurice Tomkinson, and The Mind Coach Tianne Croshaw use different but equally effective techniques to help individuals to overcome limiting self beliefs perpetuated by the inner critic.
Tianne Crowshaw uses a ‘closed eye’ exercise, employing visualisation techniques to give facial characteristics and personality to that nagging voice, and then reducing its influence by making the voice tiny, ridiculous and insignificant. It is important to note here that the technique used is not designed to ignore the voice or avoid the emotions it might raise, but to reduce its power and to enable individuals to understand that they don’t always have to listen.
Whilst this ‘closed eye’ technique is best undertaken with the presence of a trained coach to guide you through, there are ways in which you can help yourself to master your inner critic. If you feel that you would like to do this, why not try the following steps:
The above approach, used by Maurice Tomkinson in one to one coaching sessions, adopts similar techniques to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - challenging individuals to examine the message, reason with what it is saying and then take the power back.
Ultimately, the trick to dealing with your inner critic is to develop a balanced relationship with it: to not ignore or avoid it and the emotions it raises, but to also not allow yourself to be bullied by it. As soon as you hear your inner critic, acknowledge the information—but always ask: is my inner critic helping me or hurting me? If what it's telling you saps your confidence, then ask it to step aside and continue on your way.
If you would like to work on mastering your inner critic with either Maurice or Tianne then one to one coaching can be arranged. Please contact Maurice on 07870 129659 or Tianne on 07779 050307.